Matching Online dating services pride themselves on having developed complex formulas, or algorithms, that will diagnose you and then apply this diagnosis to helping you find the perfect match uniquely qualified to be your ideal romantic partner.
If you hold onto the false belief that you need to keep looking until you find that soulmate, you may zip past some otherwise excellent dating prospects.
Communication Because users can engage in extensive online communication (called “Computer Mediated Communication” or CMC), prior to meeting, they form impressions that may or may not correspond to those they eventually make when they see the real person.
When their expectation doesn’t match reality, they are then more disappointed than they would be if they had met the person earlier on in the relationship.
This process is exacerbated by the tendency that people have to disguise their flaws either by bending the truth or lying outright about their age, their job, their background, or even their marital status.
In a recent comprehensive analysis, Northwestern University psychologist Eli Finkel and collaborators claim that online dating sites not only don’t improve, but may even hurt those seeking happiness in their relationships.
It was natural enough that online dating services would develop and evolve over the past two decades.
The information you provide about yourself now describes who you are today, but it may have little to do with who you are in 10 or 20 years.
People develop in myriad ways throughout their lives, in response to changes within themselves over time and changes in their life circumstances.
There is no way that an online personality test can predict how you, or your potential partners, will mature over time.
The same can be said for offline matchups as well, but the problem is in what the online sites claim to be able to do.
The decision-making processes we go through when we’re examining online profiles are also different than those we use in offline situations.