I would go to those uptight “lady” meetings in Beverly Hills and Brentwood where women with bad facelifts and expensive handbags complain about their gardeners.I would go to a Saturday women’s meeting in Crenshaw for lesbians.Try one…OR…two…or more….nearly 84% of those who do come back again and again. Club Med invented the all-inclusive vacation in 1950.
And let us not forget about the amends that have to be exchanged once the relationship has gone awry. We had a mutual sober friend who kept the connection going even when our diseases and neuroses kept us—or me—apart.
He pursued and pursued, and I rejected and deflected, hating myself too much to respond to anyone who liked me.
It’s only a matter of time before he hears how—and who—you’re doing.
The “Grapevine” couldn’t be a better metaphor for the growing gossip and intertwining overgrowth that is the fellowship of AA.
One day, when I was telling him everything about him that made him not my type, he said, “You really should be nice to me because we are going to end up together.” He’s not what I would have ever imagined for myself back when I was a distraction-seeking, unhinged newcomer.
And thankfully I kept coming back long enough to figure out that he was right.
Anywhere we gather to have a vacation with meetings will be great.
We try to find that special destination that takes this idea to the highest level.
One day at the crusty Brentwood “ladies who lunch” meeting, a tattooed, dark-haired man walked in.“This is a women’s meeting,” one of the tautly pulled housewives said.“I am a woman,” the man—who, as it turned out, was a woman—said. I had never been attracted to a woman before but she wasn’t just a woman: she was, when I got to know her, this amazing combination of the best traits of a female best friend with all the machismo and chivalry of a man.
She could fix your car and then stay up till in the morning eating ice cream and talking about feelings, burning you Tori Amos CD’s.
So when you break up with somebody, don’t be surprised when they end up dating your sponsor or sponsee.