But when someone loves from their strengths, they know who they are and are drawing from a deep, full well to give to you without demanding a drink in return.We all have insecurities, fears, failures, painful memories, and just all around unattractive stuff we’re hiding in the back of our closet.
Does this thought excite you or does it make you feel like you just digested a can of the aforementioned Play-Doh? And you need to have your own identity beyond your spouse.
But if you don’t want to become like the person you’re dating, should you be dating?
Instead of being constantly squashed by this huge question when your relationship starts getting more serious, you should ask yourself these nine questions instead: Marriage is like rolling Play-Doh: the more two different colors are meshed together the harder it becomes to distinguish one from another.
In marriage you begin to rub off on each other, subtly taking on traits and characteristics of the other.
But just because you want to pretend your monsters don’t exist doesn’t mean they’re just going to magically go away. As I wrote in my book 101 Secrets for your Twenties,"Newly married and living in a small apartment is no place to store a luggage set full of your baggage.
And marriage has the amazing ability to take all that you hoped would remain hidden and put it on stage for a nationally televised interview that your in-laws will be watching. Begin to ditch those bags now." Marriage is as everyday as it gets.
When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that one giant question. To magically stumble upon “The One” like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.
But how are you supposed to know which one is the right one?
Just be true to yourself when answering the questions and you may have new insights about your relationship.