The root of the problem is not our behavior but our heart.
If I asked you to house-sit for me, I'd expect you to treat my house respectfully. When you fornicate (have sex when you're not married), you are doing something destructive to someone Else's property. Therefore you must be a responsible steward of your body.
I'd feel betrayed if you trashed it while I was gone. 1 Cor , 18-20 Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body... Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
They probably lived close to the temple, were actively involved, and yet they were so corrupt. The evil is already in the heart, the only thing the outside stimulus does is stir up the evil already there and make it come out. Does that mean that a Christian can do anything he wants without fear of being defiled? Was it the moment he touched Bathsheba or when he kissed her? It happens when we lose our focus on God.” (p 90) The "pure in heart" are given the promise that they "shall see God" (Matthew 5:8).
Samuel grew up in the same environment and he turned out to be a godly man. If you are courting someone and you are alone in a room together, is it the privacy that causes you to stumble with your physical boundaries? Mark says “NOTHING outside can make a man unclean, but what comes out.” Did Jesus really mean NOTHING? YES – Because a Christian is one whose heart is filled with love for God and he wouldn’t want to do anything that would be contrary to glorifying Him. Did it happen the moment he saw her bathing and chose to watch instead of turn away? Maintaining physical boundaries is simply an outward expression of your heart’s desire to flee opportunities for compromise.
James -15 teaches that everyone is “drawn away of his own lust and enticed…” The devil could drop dead today, and we would not get any better. How do all those evils get into the heart in the first place? If so, then don’t we need rules like don’t touch, don’t handle, don’t taste? In Physical Boundaries Part 2, I share practical steps to deal with your heart so that maintaining purity in your courtship is not a legalistic experience.
In light of this paradigm shift, you don't need to worship your virginity, (although you should not trivialize it either).
Unless the heart changes, all the rules you design for physical boundaries will be useless because we don’t need any outside stimulus to lead us to evil.
If you think about the story of Cain and Abel, you see that they lived in a perfect world.
20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's." (Proverbs ) And when you hurt, God hurts.
He does not want to see his beloved child go through more heartache than need be. You can hide the fact that you're messing around with your boyfriend/girlfriend so you don't "set a bad example" or "bring disgrace" to your church or family, but that's not why you should stay pure. You are the body of Christ and Christ is holy.1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 says, "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; 6 and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him.
When you say "I do" to the Lord and ask Him to be your Savior and Lord, you are disrespecting Him when you treat your body in a manner that He doesn't approve of. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you.