It also makes me feel slightly safer that, if my cards weren't verbally on the table, at least they're out there on my Instagram.
So what am I actually doing to put myself out there and take risks?
An ostomy alone is not a deterrent to any activities you are otherwise capable of and that includes your social life.
Whether a person desires companionship, active participation in sex, or a serious romance leading to marriage, how one's surgery will be accepted by a potential partner or friend is a normal concern.
Some men wear cummerbund type coverings, which encircles the midsection and the pouch can be tucked up out of the way. There are many products available that can be purchased or you can make your own covering. Apply the same principles for coping with telling, rejection, and preparing for sex.
Since the closing of the anus may present a sexual impairment for some individuals with an ileostomy or colostomy, modifications for sexual fulfillment are necessary.
Intercourse will not harm the ostomy nor will most positions disturb the pouch or covering.
Women can accomplish covering the pouch or stoma area by wearing a sexy shorty nightgown or crotch-less panties. The same concerns and anxieties are present in gay or lesbian relationships.
Referrals may be made to gynecologist, urologist, therapist or counselor.
Earlier this afternoon I was walking along Bay St., here in Toronto, after speaking to a group about Uncover Ostomy.
Harmony within oneself precedes harmony in a relationship.