However, the easiest thing by far is how you make him feel. Back in the old days, guys knew what they were: protectors, providers, hunters, builders, etc. There is something or someone to handle all of the essentials for life, so what is he now? Do you want to keep him around purely for your own selfish reasons?
If you are able to crawl into his mind and give him the things he craves the most, then you become valuable. Here is the best secret you can ever find: read Rousing the Lion and you’ll find out ways to give your man a purpose. Sometimes letting him see that you support him following his dreams and that you want him to achieve greatness shows how cool of a girl you really are.
It might seem like you will be pressuring him or you might scare him away because you are being clingy, but you need to know!
The only way to hold on to hope now that he’s leaving is that time in the future when you will be together again full-time.
If he’s just rolling out with no clear vision on where you fit in, then he’s simply just rolling out on you.
With employment prospects for twentysomethings and more couples delaying marriage, people are facing this dilemma at a younger age, usually before they’ve made a legal commitment to one another.
In fact, the decision to pack up and leave together could probably even be considered a new relationship milestone, falling somewhere between “cohabitation” and “engagement” on the seriousness scale.
“So, I’ve been dating a great guy for the past two months. As of right now, he will be graduating from college at the end of this fall semester.
Here’s the problem: previous to us dating, he had mentioned that he’s moving to Brooklyn, NY after he graduates just so he could have free rent. I have it really bad for this guy but I’m not sure I want to invest more time and emotion into a relationship that could pretty much over in six months.
This is where I must point you to some required reading.
Your current problem with your boyfriend moving is that you have done nothing to assert yourself here.
He gets to keep an emotional pacifier back at home to talk to (and occasionally sleep with) and you get to be the basket case waiting for something to happen.