This pattern will keep repeating itself until you become aware of it and begin to make different relationship choices. Emotionally abusive women often present themselves as “helpless victims,” which makes the men who are attracted to them feel needed, strong, and powerful.
Dating a woman who was emotionally abused
Acknowledge how you were hurt in the past This won’t be easy.
Initially, being loved and accepted for who you are will feel unnatural and uncomfortable.
Ride out the discomfort until feeling good in a relationship feels normal.
You couldn’t choose your first familial love relationships as a child, by Dr Tara J.
If you’re not one of the lucky ones, you’re probably re-enacting childhood relationships in an effort to negate your original feelings of hurt and loss by trying to have an emotionally corrective experience. The women you’re attracted to aren’t anymore capable of giving you what you need and want than your parent(s), sibling(s), or whomever caused your original emotional injury.
You end up repeating the same doomed relationship pattern with the same type of person. Parentified sons often grow up to have adult relationships with women who need to be “rescued,” when in reality, it’s the men who need to be rescued from these women who appear to be fragile waifs, but quickly turn into abusive aggressors when you disappoint them or fail to meet her expectations, which are often unrealistic.
There are a few possible reasons why you repeatedly get involved with crazy women in all their forms.
If “crazy” gets you hot, it’s in your best interest to figure out why and break the pattern.
It didn’t compute and you have probably spent a lot of time and energy trying to make the same relationship work with different women.
My advice: Additionally, because this was your first relationship experience, you may mistakenly believe that it’s what relationships are supposed to be like and have patterned subsequent relationships on it.
When you feel an overpowering, immediate chemistry toward a new woman, like you’ve always known her, without rhyme or reason, We create relationship templates when we’re kids based on our parents’ relationship and the way our parents, siblings, grandparents, or anyone we sought affection and approval from treated us.