I hate to be the bearer of bad (and, in part, paranoid) news – but understanding that might in fact prevent more extended disappointment down the road.
Listen, I understand phones are private devices – and, within relationships, members deserve their own privacy – but withholding information, of any type, will inevitably result in skepticism from those on the outside.
Everyone has certain doubts about his or her partner – and, while a good many of these apprehensions come from a place of paranoia – there are some that stem from places of reason, places of logic.
This concept can't follow a “sometimes” policy, though, and only be enforced when it's convenient.
If a four-digit password is the barrier between you and certain aspects of your partner’s private life, I don't know, that feels as if you're on the outside of something important.
Imagine being at a nice restaurant and ordering an expensive bottle of wine.
Before your tuxedo-clad waiter will even think to pour out your glass, he will undoubtedly provide you with a sample, for you to taste prior.
This is his way of showing you he's confident of its quality, and has no problem letting you taste it before subjecting yourself to it – at $17 a glass.
In effect, he's showing you he has nothing to hide.
In today's “digital age,” or whatever you'd like to call it, people's faces are plastered to their phone screens nine times out of 10. Our phones becoming little, hand-held versions of our own lives – full of all our likes and interests tailored into “apps.”By preventing someone you're in a relationship with from having access to your phone, you might also be preventing him or her access from a part of your life he or she may feel more secure being let in on.
If your boyfriend or girlfriend isn't doing anything shady on his or her phone, there's zero prerogative to try and keep things from you.
Remember, when I was an unavailable guy in my former life, I attracted a lot of women who were drawn to the mystery of my lack of openness. And, when women do this, they lose themselves every single time. So, if you are this woman, no need to lose yourself over time, trying to “get” the love you want by convincing your man to change.