Cybersex encounters, says Ted, last 30 minutes, sometimes even an hour or two, depending on how long sex-chat mates want to extend their play.
Reflecting on them, I saw that the new phenomenon of cybersex creates an impasse as to their efficacy.
The complexity of the cybersex phenomenon and the varied ethical issues anchored on it call for a rethinking of existing ethical frameworks and a formulation of a new one with concrete sexual norms for effective moral evaluation. The first section deals with cybersex as a contemporary human phenomenon, its ins and outs, its workings, language, and usage.
The following is a summary of one of the cybersex stories featured in that series.1This is the story of Ted, 27 years old and single, who works as an information technology professional in Makati.
While most young urban professionals spend their Friday evenings "malling" and bar-hopping, Ted spends hours and hours dragging and clicking to his favorite chat rooms.
Sometimes Ted has what he calls "big nights" when some girls give him "permission" to view them naked via a computer webcam.
Ted says he started with "innocent" chatting more than a year ago, shortly after he broke up with his girlfriend of four years, until he eventually found himself often visiting adult chat rooms.
Introduction A priest who wants to write on cybersex may cause discomfort to some readers. My experience of cybersex is surely limited and this is what makes it difficult for me to write this article.
Questions like these may crop up in their mind: What right has he to talk about this matter? I had to reckon with two things in preparing for this ethical discourse on cybersex: first, the actual engagement in online sex as a challenge I had to face to be able to gain insights from concrete experience, and second, the search for the best framework to ethically evaluate this new sexual phenomenon.
Using pseudo names, he could be whatever he wants himself to be: a man, a woman, a teen-ager, a middle-aged person, an old man, etc.